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Have you ever heard the phrase cockblocking? You know, you’re at a bar, talking to a girl, and what happens? Her less attractive friend comes over and ruins everything. Cockblock. Well I have to tell you something guys: I have been the less attractive friend, and you were NOT cockblocked. I was following orders from my better-looking friend that she did not wanna fuck you. …Girls have two signals for their friends: ‘I’m gonna fuck him’ and ‘HELP.’

Amy Schumer [x] (via rashaka)

The number of “get me out of here” tactics women have developed and shared to help each other escape from overly-insistent-to-borderline-predatory dudes in public places should probably be enough evidence of the existence of rape culture all on its own.

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YES

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I especially like how, in the majority of cases, you don’t have to verbally communicate what your signals are to other women. I’ve had women I didn’t even know come save me. Literally every woman recognizes the “Dear god, help me” facial expression, and knows exactly what they should do. We don’t get a handbook for this. We don’t have a sit-down nail polish party where we talk about a standardized woman code for preventing creepers. It’s just part of being a woman.

BUT LOL RAPE CULTURE DOESN’T EXIST.

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Yup. I’ve definitely taken strangers by the arm and pulled her aside to go, “Oh my GOD it’s you! How ARE YOU?!? It’s been so long!” and then been like “hey I could overhear that guy who wouldn’t leave you alone so I figured I’d give you an out” and then see their VISIBLY RELIEVED expressions. This is part of girl code, because rape culture is that pervasive.

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I once had a girl sit on my lap and say “hey baby” after she witnessed a guy (who was easily 20+ years older than me) hitting on me and harassing me for my number even after I told him I was taken. After he got up and left she asked if I was okay. I couldn’t thank her enough times, I even bought her a drink.

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We have done this. In fact, we are this. Because we are asexual and we don’t like alcohol so we never drink, we have gone with friends to parties/places where our sole job was to keep an eye out for everyone and be the permanent ‘aggressive man-sheild.’ Not one of our female friends has ever questioned this or found it all strange. In fact, often once they realized we were willing to do it, it would be pre-arranged. Every guy friend we ever did this in front of or tried to explain to looked flabbergasted. They had no idea that this was a) an intentional thing, b) a planned ahead thing, or c) universal.

Rape culture is the fact that every woman understands this. Male privilege is the fact that no guy on earth seems to know or understand.

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I’ve been asked to pretend to be my friend’s girlfriend every time we go out at night, just because she wears clothes that show off her curves and guys won’t leave her alone. They only back off when I put my arm around her and act as if we’re together romantically, and sometimes not even then.

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i once ran interference for a friend, only to receive the unwanted advances myself. he wouldn’t back off until my (male) friend literally wrapped me up in his arms and acted as if he was my S.O.

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It happens online too. A guy I know started Facebook-stalking me after a recent interaction, and my roommate immediately got on Facebook and told him she was my girlfriend. He thankfully backed off after that.

I can’t count the number of times I have pretended to be somebody’s girlfriend or sister in a bar when a guy wouldn’t leave her alone. Both with friends and strangers.

(via feministsupernatural)

After reading these, I feel like taking a shower. Because I’m the designated driver pretty much every time, not being a big fan of alcohol, but I rarely, if ever, intervene. And yeah, I’m small and pretty physically weak, but I could put my foot down verbally if it came down to it. I’m just too scared.

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You’re probably scared of confronting the guys.  And you should be.  That’s what this whole post is about.  Rape culture is so prevalent and socially accepted as the rule of the land that if someone confronts a guy and tells him directly to back off, someone is getting hurt.  That’s why all of the testimonies here are examples of how to deflect.  How women all learn methods of pulling a woman away from a situation with a guy who isn’t allowing her to say no, by making up some lie that will get the guy to let her go without sending him into a rage and deciding to teach you both a lesson about knowing your place and submitting to rape culture.  Men are dangerous in these situations because all of society backs them up as just a nice guy who deserves a chance, and vilifies any woman who refuses to give him a chance.  Women are not allowed to say no.  So other women have to rescue the women saying no and pull them away with some made up excuse.  Otherwise the situation will escalate and the ones who get hurt are always the women. 

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Women absolutely have to learn rescue tactics for each other, but it’s kind of funny how we describe really obvious facial expressions and body language as “secret signals.” The reality is that women telegraph disinterest in these aggressive men, making it super obvious, but men choose to ignore it. Total strangers who are just sitting nearby or happen to glace their way will be able to see that the woman isn’t interested, but the guy making the advances is somehow oblivious? Unlikely.

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And its fucked because women actively know the signs while men have refused to learn any body language signal of “leave me alone” that women do.

Women are always the one who have to accommodate their behavior to suit mens egos.

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triflin’ ass dudes, take note. and please PLEASE, men, become interference runners for your women friends

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socialjusticekoolaid:

That CNN Anchor who said police should turn “water cannons” on the protesters… yeah, her ass is gone! #staywoke #cackling

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moony-balloons:

micchi-monster:

prettysenshiconfessions:


I honestly am not thrilled that Naoko Takeuchi is working on Sailor Moon Crystal. I dislike a lot of the radically feminist tones of Crystal (I.e., the very blatantly feminist theme song, Tuxedo Mask being written out whenever possible), which I can only assume were her doing.

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I am legit crying with laughter.Like, who has EVER looked at Sailor Moon and thought “nope, nothing feminist about this here story all about women who are strong and capable and kick ass in heels and nail polish.”?And of course, Tuxedo Mask being written out of everything totally explains why he’s in every episode and gives Sailor Moon advice and strength, yup yup.

"I’m not thrilled that the creator of Sailor Moon is working on Sailor Moon"

"I dislike that Sailor Moon Crystal is staying far far closer to the original story than the previous anime adaption did."

moony-balloons:

micchi-monster:

prettysenshiconfessions:

I honestly am not thrilled that Naoko Takeuchi is working on Sailor Moon Crystal. I dislike a lot of the radically feminist tones of Crystal (I.e., the very blatantly feminist theme song, Tuxedo Mask being written out whenever possible), which I can only assume were her doing.

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I am legit crying with laughter.

Like, who has EVER looked at Sailor Moon and thought “nope, nothing feminist about this here story all about women who are strong and capable and kick ass in heels and nail polish.”?

And of course, Tuxedo Mask being written out of everything totally explains why he’s in every episode and gives Sailor Moon advice and strength, yup yup.

"I’m not thrilled that the creator of Sailor Moon is working on Sailor Moon"

"I dislike that Sailor Moon Crystal is staying far far closer to the original story than the previous anime adaption did."

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Chris Evans Ice Bucket Challenge (x)

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sammy-got-pimped-for-pie:

In honor of back-to-school.

sammy-got-pimped-for-pie:

In honor of back-to-school.

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eustaciavye77:

David Tennant, professional fanboy.

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zandapheri:

scientists have isolated the gene that makes you become a eugenicist and are somewhat torn as to what to do with this

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lydieslittlefamily:

usuallycrazy:

Can we discuss how really, really cool it is that Olivia Wilde is breastfeeding her son for Glamour magazine?
Can we establish that it’s really amazing that it will be showcasing female breasts for their intended purpose and showcases her as a mother, just doing mother things?
Can I say that I find this unbelievably cool and I’m really glad it’s a thing that’s happening?
Even if I can’t, I’m gonna. Because it is and I’m really glad it’s happening.

This is so great

lydieslittlefamily:

usuallycrazy:

Can we discuss how really, really cool it is that Olivia Wilde is breastfeeding her son for Glamour magazine?

Can we establish that it’s really amazing that it will be showcasing female breasts for their intended purpose and showcases her as a mother, just doing mother things?

Can I say that I find this unbelievably cool and I’m really glad it’s a thing that’s happening?

Even if I can’t, I’m gonna. Because it is and I’m really glad it’s happening.

This is so great

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leanonstephen:

cat-pictures-blog:

The face your kitten makes after you rescue him from an alley downtown.

#I HAVE WAy MORE FEELINGS ABOUT THIS CAT THAN I DO THE TITANIC OR THE NOTEBOOK OR THAT BULLSHIT

leanonstephen:

cat-pictures-blog:

The face your kitten makes after you rescue him from an alley downtown.

#I HAVE WAy MORE FEELINGS ABOUT THIS CAT THAN I DO THE TITANIC OR THE NOTEBOOK OR THAT BULLSHIT

shingekinoheichoo:

okay guys i know next to nobody will reblog this but please

if a family member has ever made a “harmless” comment (what have you done to your hair/what the hell are you wearing/etc)  to you about your appearance and it hurt you, please reblog this, i need to show my mum and step dad the notes.

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littlebonefox:

iwriteaboutfeminism:

Ferguson’s public library welcomes students and teachers this week, while schools are still closed. 

This is magic. 

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